Golden Truths

Simple Truths …. I have learnt the hard way. 

1.    Think hard about who you want to marry, love might be blind but married life  is an eye opener.

2.    Try and focus on the marriage and not the wedding.  As with time , the wedding is  forgotten only the marriage matters. 

3.    Do not nurture any illusions about an ideal happy marriage as that is an oxymoron. There will ups and downs, there will be compromises may be more than you are prepared for.

4.    Men and women are inherently, intrinsically different.  They are like two parallel lines , you may live together but the Twain shall never meet.  However agreeable and acquiescent your better half may seem,  be prepared for your share of arguments and fights.

5.    Take your man's words with a pinch of salt and generous dose of pepper. A lot is said just to make an impression in the early courtship period with an aim to please so don’t expect the poor man to actually do what he promised when you were dating.

6.    Time , the  relentless ravager makes many  appealing  aspects seem unappealing and abhorable . What matters at 25 may be insignificant at 45..

7.    In a marriage, don’t let the mundane take over, keep some room for magic, do something unexpected, plan a date, go for a drive without the kids. A smile or a hug can do wonders to a relationship.

8.    However busy you are , don’t stop expressing. Reach out everyday in one way or the other, show your love, express your emotions, don’t assume and expect your partner to just know that you love them, say it and show it.

9.    Make time for your family, don’t let technology eat up whatever little you get with your loved ones. Create a no tech zone or hour. Make meal time family time, remember a family that eats together, stays together.

10. Watch your children grow, play with them, read to them and most importantly talk to them. Don’t belittle them or compare them to their friends, each child is different and special . Always  listen to your children, ask them about their day, be their best friend. Hug them often, don’t underestimate the power of love .

11. Your family is because you are. Don't undermine yourself and make yourself the last priority. 

12.  Relationships are important so are you,  try and adjust but without bending backwards and compromising on your dignity and independence. Don’t let anyone walk all over you or take you for granted….Know where to draw the line. 

13. Remember,  no one can love you as unconditionally as your parents. Take care of them just like they took care of you...thank them amd tell them how much they mean to you. Spend time with them, take holidays , surprise them and just be with them.

14. Make time for your friends, pick up the phone, surprise your best pal, send her flowers. Call your girlfriends over, have a no holds barred chat with them, sharing is caring.

15. Don’t sweat the small stuff, don’t fret over the maid or the house, save it for the real issues.

16. Focus on people not things, experiences not assets,memories not money

17. Seize the day, travel as much as possible, try and live each moment to the fullest .

18. Remember , nothing lasts forever ,so cherish what you have, thank god for what you have and count your blessings.